Falling In Love With More Than One Person At A Time Is That Real

Author picture
Written By:

Counselling Psychologist - M.Sc. Clinical Psychology

Author picture
Reviewed By:

Counselling Psychologist - Ph.D. Relationship Psychology

Image description

ceKis kis ko pyaar karu?

(Who all should I love?)

Love, the eternal enigma that has captivated poets, artists, and philosophers for centuries, continues to be a subject of fascination and exploration in the modern world. In a society that often glorifies the idea of finding "the one," is it possible to fall in love with more than one person at the same time? Can the heart truly accommodate multiple loves simultaneously? Some claim that being in love with more than one person only happens on screen and that because most of us choose one person over the other, it means we love someone "more" and therefore we can’t “truly” love more than one person. Others understand these movies and TV shows to speak to the normalcy of loving more than one person at a time. If we can love our parents, children, and friends simultaneously, why couldn t we romantically love more than one person? Our hearts and minds are capable! 

Does this sound familiar?  You’re not alone. It all boils down to how we define love; everyone will have their own experiences and definitions. Can we have strong feelings for more than one person? Yes. Can we envision our lives with more than one person (even if wildly different)? Yes. Can we feel sexual desire toward more than one person? Yes. Can we care about and want to support more than one person? Yes.  

But, if we think about love as a verb, a conscious choice to honor and respect someone, to choose them every day, and to fight for them then, although that is possible with multiple people, it is often more complex and more demanding. Unless we decide to be polyamorous, we are in a position where we have to determine who we will continue to love actively. 

If you are currently trying to make a decision, consider the following: 

  • What aspects of yourself come out with each person? 
  • Do you want to commit to one or both of them? 
  • Who are you compatible with?  
  • Are you truly in love or are you infatuated? 

It s essential to be curious and honest with yourself and everyone involved. Something that helps is defining how you feel about each person.

The Quest for “The One”

From fairy tales to romantic comedies, the narrative of finding "the one" has long been etched into our collective consciousness. The concept suggests that there is a single soulmate out there, perfectly crafted to complete us. But what if this notion, often fueled by destiny and serendipity, isn t as straightforward as we ve been led to believe?

Success story

Meet Sarah and Mark, a couple who have been happily married for over a decade. They consider themselves soulmates, deeply in love, and incredibly compatible. But they also discovered that their love could extend beyond their own partnership. With open hearts and honest communication, they ventured into the world of polyamory, embracing multiple relationships with full consent. Today, they share their love with other partners, experiencing the beauty of diverse connections without compromising their commitment to each other.

Failure story

In contrast, there s the story of Emily, a firm believer in the idea of finding "the one." She entered into a passionate relationship with Alex, whom she believed was her soulmate. However, her heart was divided when she unexpectedly fell in love with Daniel. Conflicted and torn, she faced a painful decision that left all three hearts broken. Emily s experience illustrates the complexities and challenges of navigating love when multiple relationships come into play.

Challenging the norm: Polyamory

The concept of polyamory challenges the traditional model of monogamy by acknowledging that individuals are capable of forming loving and meaningful relationships with multiple partners simultaneously. It emphasizes consensual and ethical non-monogamy, where all parties involved are aware of and agree to the arrangements.

Polyamory in practice

Polyamorous relationships thrive on open communication, honesty, and respect. These relationships are not built on deceit or infidelity but on the premise of exploring love and connection beyond the confines of societal expectations.

Perfect love or real love?

Central to the question of loving more than one person is the idea of perfect love. Many of us have been conditioned to believe that perfect love can only be achieved with a single, soulmate partner. But what if this notion isn t an absolute truth? What if perfect love can manifest in various forms and with different individuals?

The complex world of love

Honesty and Communication: Open and honest communication is the cornerstone of navigating multiple relationships successfully. Discuss your feelings, expectations, and boundaries openly with all parties involved to foster understanding and trust.

Individual Growth: Acknowledge that loving more than one person doesn t diminish the uniqueness of each relationship. Each connection offers opportunities for personal growth and fulfillment.

Soulmates and Destiny: While the idea of finding a soulmate is undeniably romantic, it s essential to recognize that love is not limited to a single individual. Embrace the idea that you can share meaningful connections with multiple people throughout your life journey.

Polyamory as a choice: If you re considering polyamory, approach it as a conscious choice that requires commitment and responsibility. It s not a quick fix for relationship issues but a lifestyle that demands maturity, self-awareness, and ethical behavior.

Perfect Love is an Evolution: Consider that perfect love may not be a fixed destination but an evolving journey filled with diverse experiences and connections. Embrace the idea that love can be diverse and multifaceted.

The question of whether it s possible to fall in love with more than one person at a time is not a matter of fantasy or reality; it s a matter of the heart. Love, in all its complexities, cannot be confined to a one-size-fits-all definition. It is as diverse and unique as the individuals who experience it.

Whether you believe in the concept of "the one" or are open to the possibilities of polyamory, the most important aspect is approaching your relationships with honesty, respect, and empathy. Love, after all, is a profoundly personal journey, and its boundaries are defined by the hearts that dare to love.

In the end, the capacity to love more than one person is a testament to the boundless nature of the human heart. It reminds us that love is not a singular destination but an ever-evolving expedition, filled with different experiences and connections. Cherish and nurture the love you have, whether it s with one person or several, and strive for the most authentic and fulfilling connections in your life. Love, in all its forms, is a beautiful and profound force that enriches our existence.

Ms. Priyanka Walia
Ms. Priyanka Walia M.A. Counselling Psychology Counselling Psychologist 05 years of experience

View Reviews

Get up to 50% OFF on counselling session
Ms. Muskan Maheshwari
Ms. Muskan Maheshwari M.Sc. Clinical Psychology Clinical Psychologist 02 years of experience

View Reviews

Get up to 50% OFF on counselling session
Mr. Nishant Sharma
Mr. Nishant Sharma M.Phil. Clinical Psychology Clinical Psychologist 07 years of experience

View Reviews

Get up to 50% OFF on counselling session
Ms. Akshita Bakshi
Ms. Akshita Bakshi Ph.D. Relationship Psychology Counselling Psychologist 05 years of experience

View Reviews

Get up to 50% OFF on online counselling session

Request a call back

Need any consultations contact with us