DISCERNMENT COUNSELLING

Discernment counseling is a type of therapy designed for couples who are uncertain about the future of their relationship. It is a short-term intervention that helps couples to explore their options and make a decision about the direction they want their relationship to take. The goal of discernment counseling is not to fix the relationship, but to help the couple decide whether they want to work on the relationship or end it.

Couple during discernment counselling session
Couple during vertical discernment counselling session
Therapist guiding discernment counselling process
Couple talking during discernment therapy session

What is discernment counselling?

The discernment counseling process is focused on helping the couple to gain clarity about their current situation. The therapist helps the couple to identify the patterns of behavior and communication that have led to their current situation. The therapist also works with the couple to explore their hopes, fears and expectations for the future. The goal of discernment counseling is to help the couple make a decision that is in the best interests of both partners.

How does discernment counselling work?

Discernment counseling is a brief and structured approach designed for couples who are uncertain about the future of their relationship. In this process, a trained discernment counselor helps the couple explore their options and gain clarity on whether to continue working on the relationship or pursue separation or divorce. The counselor creates a safe space for open and honest communication, focusing on understanding each individual's perspectives and goals. By providing guidance and support, discernment counseling assists couples in making informed decisions about their relationship path, offering a compassionate approach to navigating a challenging crossroad.

Couple during discernment counselling session
Therapist guiding couple in discernment therapy
Vertical shot of discernment counselling session
Discernment counselling vertical view
Couple in discernment therapy session
Therapist guiding relationship counselling

What to expect from discernment counselling?

Discernment counseling is designed for couples who are uncertain about the future of their relationship. It is typically used when one partner considers ending the relationship and the other partner wants to work on the relationship. Discernment counseling is not recommended for couples who are experiencing physical or emotional abuse. It is also not recommended for couples who are already in the process of separating or divorcing. Therefore, discernment counseling is a short-term intervention designed to help couples who are uncertain about the future of their relationship.

Take the First Step

Take your first step now by contacting Couplebees and scheduling a discernment counseling session with one of our experienced therapists. Our therapists are trained in helping couples navigate complex relationship issues and will work with you to gain clarity and understanding about your situation. Whether you decide to work on the relationship or end it, discernment counseling can help you make a decision that is in the best interests of both partners.

Frequently Asked Questions About Discernment Counseling

The primary goal of discernment counseling is to give couples clarity about their relationship’s future. While it may not always lead to reconciliation, it helps partners decide whether to rebuild the relationship or separate with mutual understanding.

Traditional couples counseling focuses on problem-solving and strengthening the relationship. Discernment counseling, on the other hand, helps couples explore all options — whether to stay together, pursue divorce, or commit to focused couples therapy.

The process usually includes both individual and joint sessions. The counselor helps each partner share their perspective, clarify goals, and then facilitates joint discussions to explore options and underlying issues in the relationship.

Yes, it can still be effective. Discernment counseling provides a safe environment where both partners can express their views openly. While initial reluctance is common, genuine participation from both sides is important for meaningful outcomes.

Even if divorce is already on the table, discernment counseling can help couples separate more amicably. It allows partners to reflect on the decision, address unresolved emotions, and move forward with clarity, respect, and mutual understanding.