How To Improve Love And Romance In Relationship

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Counselling Psychologist - M.Sc. Clinical Psychology

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Why Love and Romance are Important 

Love and Romance are extremely important in any relationship. This is because with the help of love and romance, a lasting and healthy relationship can be created. Having these two will help you feel a deeper level of emotional connection with your partner, fostering a deep sense of emotional intimacy. This emotional intimacy will be your guidepost that will support you through all the tough times you face together or individually during the course of your relationship. 

Another reason why love and romance are important in any relationship is because it helps to maintain the spice and spark needed in a relationship. Over a period of time, couples tend to get habitual to each other and stop putting in the effort to do romantic things. In unfortunate circumstances, stagnation is formed in the relationship and this can also cause the partners to drift away from each other. 

 A healthy relationship is like a plant. A plant won’t grow in a healthy manner on its own. It needs regular water and sunlight. Love and romance are like water and sunlight to a relationship. Only when the relationship gets an adequate amount of love and romance will the relationship be able to grow and thrive in a healthy manner. 

How does a Loving and Romantic Relationship Look? 

Have you ever noticed a pair of magnets? You might have observed that they only stick together when the sides are complementary. Or else they repel each other. A loving and romantic relationship is like that pair of magnets. These two elements will allow you and your partner to complement each other in a holistic way. These are some of the signs you and your partner are in a loving and romantic relationship, 

  1. There are no communication issues between your partner and you, 
  2. You both do not shy away from affections and gestures, 
  3. There is immense respect between you both, 
  4. You make time for each other and enjoy doing things together, 
  5. You are romantic with each other from time to time such as going out on dates, buying each other gifts etc., 
  6. You and your partner share a good amount of compatibility, 
  7. You and your partner are not afraid to be intimate with each other, 
  8. You both help each other grow in the relationship, 
  9. Your partner and you are extremely supportive of each other, 
  10. You feel safe with them and experience improved well-being when you are with them. 

Ways to Have a Loving and Romantic Relationship 

Just like the plant that needs frequent watering and sunlight exposure, a healthy relationship also has to be fostered and created. These are some of the ways in which you can foster your relationship into a more loving and romantic one, 

  1. Show Trust and Respect - 

Showing trust and respect in a relationship is the bare minimum you must do to have a loving and lasting relationship. This is because these will go on to being the foundation and building blocks of your relationship. You must create a safe space with your partner so that your boundaries and their boundaries and personal space are respected. This way your partner will be able to rely on you easily and this will foster more love and romance between you both. 

  1. Be Expressive - 

One of the best ways to foster love and romance in a relationship is to be expressive with your partner. This means that you should be willing to have open discussions with your partner on your wants, needs and desires. This way you will be able to provide for those needs and wants that your partner wants and vice versa. Open and expressive communication is also useful because it gives you both the chance to be vulnerable and build a stronger sense of trust and connection. 

  1. Importance of Intimacy - 

Intimacy is a crucial part of every romantic relationship. For a relationship to be loving and healthy, you must foster intimacy on safe levels. There are two parts to intimacy. One being, physical intimacy and the second being emotional intimacy. Physical intimacy refers to the ability to be physically close and sensual with each other. This is not restricted only to sexual acts, but can also be non-sexual acts like hugging, holding hands, and caressing each other. This will release sufficient oxytocin (love hormone) in your brain and will bring you and your partner closer. The second type of intimacy is emotional intimacy. This can be established by being vulnerable and creating a safe space for your partner to be vulnerable. This way you both will be able to express yourselves freely and can make deeper connections with each other. 

  1. Use Love Languages - 

Love languages are the best way in which you can foster love and romance. Love languages refer to the different ways in which people express their love and affection to their partners. There are roughly speaking five love languages, words of affirmation, gifts (receiving and giving), physical touch, quality time, and acts of service. These love languages are extremely useful in trying to rekindle lost romance in a relationship. First, it is important to discover your love language and communicate it openly to your partner. Next, it is important to find out the same for your partner. Using these love languages effectively will definitely help the spark of your relationship. For example, if your love language is words of affirmation then you can express your love using your words by offering compliments and kind words to your partner. Similarly, if your love language is an act of service then you can show your love by helping your partner around the house or in other works they might be engaged in. 

  1. Make Time for Romance - 

Once the relationship grows, it’s normal for certain activities and things to become mundane and feel like a chore. This is why it is important to ensure that no matter how long you are with your partner, you must make time for romance. This means that you must schedule time for weekly dates or activities that you two can do together. This way you will be able to keep the spark of your relationship alive even after a long time. 

  1. Bounce Back from Conflict - 

Resilience is a very underrated trait that people tend to ignore when it comes to maintaining love and romance in a relationship. The reason why it is important to build resilience as a trait for the health of your relationship is because resilience helps you bounce back from difficult situations or conflict situations. When you and your partner resolve your arguments or conflicts in a timely manner, then you are going to give yourself more space to show each other love and affection. The longer you brood over your conflicts, the longer you will sit in the negative emotion. 

  1. Have Shared Goals - 

Another way to improve love and romance in your relationship is by having shared goals and dreams. This means that you and your partner must try to aspire for a few goals together. This way, you both will end up working together to achieve the goals and that will bring you closer. Working on goals together is a sure fire way for building emotional connection and this can go a long way in building romance and love. 

  1. Be each others Cheerleader - 

This is something that is very simple, yet it is forgotten by many during the hustle and bustle of everyday life. As a partner you must ensure that you are your partner’s biggest cheerleader. You have to support them in all their situations and stand by their side no matter what. You must also correct them when they are going wrong and encourage them to do what makes them happy. This way you and your partner will build trust between each other and will help each other grow in love and romance. 

In conclusion, building a loving and romantic relationship takes time and effort. But if you and your partner put in consistent efforts, then you will be able to foster an enduring bond for a lifetime!

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Ms. Priyanka Walia M.A. Counselling Psychology Counselling Psychologist 05 years of experience

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